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BabushkaLady
4th June 2010, 10:16 AM
Several weeks ago I made a Huge decision while out at my BOL#2. I decided that I should be living the life that I wanted, where I wanted and by golly I was going to do it. Matter of fact I've set the deadline to be back there by the end of August.

A little background: I made a major life change several years ago by buying and moving to the BOL. It is almost perfect (except for the road) and the nearest community is of like minded people. There are plenty of trees, two springs and a gravity-flow water system, propane stove/oven, wood stove heat, out buildings and a cellar. It sat on the market over-priced for a long long time. A low bid on a really cold (-18) , very snowy (9 inches) day was the final straw for the sellers! They accepted the low cash offer.

I only got to live there one year before circumstances beyond my control took me to the Very Most Depressed City in the Country. It's funny how you can adapt to situations you really haven't planned for. You can improvise and live in someone else's home for convenience/cost. You can do without your own stuff, your own books, home internet, your preps and all things that surround you in your comfort zone. As long as you know you can get back to Your world at some point. But when? How? How much longer? Indecisiveness sets in.

I've always said the major killer of the dead rabbit in the road is that he couldn't make up his mind which way to go!

Reflections on Major Decision-Making:
-Weigh the pros and cons (obviously)
-Dream a little
-Decide how long you can put off a decision (procrastinate)
-Try to avoid the obvious first choice (selfish)
-Make little strides and hit Brick Walls (this is a big sign! ouch)
-Rethink pros and cons
-Check your math on cost analysis
-Evaluate how this will impact other people in your life
-Rethink pros and cons
-Make the Decision
-Set a deadline to accomplish it
-Relief / Peace of Mind

I know this isn't scientific by any means, but who wants to be Road Kill?

So now that I've made a decision, I feel so much better. I got to thinking about all the other little decisions I've made in the last week. For the most part, they have fallen into place because the Huge decision was already made.

Did I skip any steps in the Process? What are your Big Decision steps?

ximmy
4th June 2010, 11:54 AM
Sounds like you have given this some careful thought... I am working hard on living the life I've dreamed of... a very simple one... I'm not familiar with what a BOL is???

Large Sarge
4th June 2010, 11:59 AM
BOL = "bug Out Location" (I believe)

StackerKen
4th June 2010, 11:59 AM
BOL= Bug Out Location

IMO Its a good idea to make your BOL your PL (permanent location)

thats what I did....Im bugged out already :)

ximmy
4th June 2010, 12:03 PM
soooo... it is a kick-back place where you are comfortable enough to relax and draw flies... :)

Sparky
4th June 2010, 01:39 PM
Enjoyable post. These personal reflections are the salt of the forum. Thanks for posting.

SHTF2010
4th June 2010, 01:52 PM
I've always said the major killer of the dead rabbit in the road
is that he couldn't make up his mind which way to go!

Reflections on Major Decision-Making:

-Weigh the pros and cons (obviously)
-Dream a little
-Decide how long you can put off a decision (procrastinate)
-Try to avoid the obvious first choice (selfish)
-Make little strides and hit Brick Walls (this is a big sign! ouch)
-Rethink pros and cons
-Check your math on cost analysis
-Evaluate how this will impact other people in your life
-Rethink pros and cons
-Make the Decision
-Set a deadline to accomplish it
-Relief / Peace of Mind

I know this isn't scientific by any means, but who wants to be Road Kill?



i've always been a big believer in " pros & cons " lists

and sometimes i drive myself crazy with " comparison shopping "

BabushkaLady
4th June 2010, 02:15 PM
Enjoyable post. These personal reflections are the salt of the forum. Thanks for posting.


Tanks! :)

I mostly couldn't believe how good the last week has gone with that one decision behind me. Most people in my life didn't even know I was grinding away at indecision!

k-os
4th June 2010, 02:34 PM
Enjoyable post. These personal reflections are the salt of the forum. Thanks for posting.


Absolutely agree. Thank you BabushkaLady, and I am glad you have found some peace.

With big decisions, I write a list of pros and cons. I will stew on the decision making part until it hits me, which is never at a predictable time. It could be a day or a year, but at some point, I know what the right decision is. The hard part is making a decision, the easy part is carrying it out.

After making the big decision (to quit my job, or buy a house, or move to another country, or build a second kitchen, or replace the roof, etc.) I do it, and don't look back. For me, it's a matter of trying not to have regrets, or at least minimizing the amount of regrets that I have in this life. I like to take my time making a decision, and then I am completely solid about it (unless, of course, new information arrives).

I haven't had a problem making small or medium decisions since I was in my early twenties. I don't fret over them, or regret them. I am very quick about making these decisions. I have friends who agonize over the smallest details of their lives and it frustrates me to no end.

BabushkaLady
4th June 2010, 02:53 PM
I haven't had a problem making small or medium decisions since I was in my early twenties. I don't fret over them, or regret them. I am very quick about making these decisions. I have friends who agonize over the smallest details of their lives and it frustrates me to no end.


Ha! I know what you mean about the small decisions! Some would say I'm impulsive--I say I've got good judgement and a good gut instinct. Sounds like you do too!

Quantum
4th June 2010, 04:02 PM
BOL= Bug Out Location

IMO Its a good idea to make your BOL your PL (permanent location)

thats what I did....Im bugged out already :)


QFT!

95% of those fleeing the cities to a "bug-out location" WILL NOT MAKE IT THERE. 4% will leave early enough, and make it in the nick of time. 1% will have the skills, tools, and fortune to fight their way through every obstacle.

That 95% will be raided, raped, and killed dead. :o

ximmy
4th June 2010, 04:13 PM
BOL= Bug Out Location

IMO Its a good idea to make your BOL your PL (permanent location)

thats what I did....Im bugged out already :)


QFT!

95% of those fleeing the cities to a "bug-out location" WILL NOT MAKE IT THERE. 4% will leave early enough, and make it in the nick of time. 1% will have the skills, tools, and fortune to fight their way through every obstacle.

That 95% will be raided, raped, and killed dead. :o


love the stats... ;D I too, want to make mine (permanently) in the desert... totally self-contained.