Characteristics of Abusive Women.

[BillBoard]

Characteristics of Abusive Women

Control


Control is the "overarching behavioural characteristic" of abusive women, achieved with criticism, verbal abuse, financial control, isolation, cruelty, etc. (see Power & Control Wheel). The need to control may deepen over time or escalate if a man seeks independence (e.g. going to school).


Entitlement


Entitlement is the "overarching attitudinal characteristic" of abusive women, a belief in having special rights without responsibilities, justifying unreasonable expectations (e.g., family life must centre on her needs). She will feel the wronged party when her needs are not met and may justify violence as self-defence.


Selfishness & Self-centredness


An expectation of being the centre of attention, having her needs anticipated. May not support or listen to others.


Superiority


Contempt for men as stupid, unworthy, a sex object or as a hunter.


Possessiveness


Seeing him as her man and her children as property.


Confusing Love & Abuse


Explaining violence as an expression of her deep love.


Manipulativeness


A tactic of confusion, distortion and lies. May project image of herself as good, and portray the man as crazy or abusive.


Contradictory Statements & Behaviours


Saying one thing and doing another, such as being publicly critical of women who abuse men.


Externalization of Responsibility


Shifting blame for her actions and their effects to others, especially the man, or to external factors such as child rearing stress.


Denial, Minimization, & Victim Blaming


Refusing to acknowledge abusive behaviour (e.g. he fell), not acknowledging the seriousness of her behaviour and its effects (e.g., it's just a scratch), blaming the victim (e.g., he drove me to it; he made it up because I have a new girlfriend).


Serial Battering


Some women are abusive in relationship after relationship.

:o

[Horn]

Serial Battering

Some women are abusive in relationship after relationship.

You can't run from yourself, especially when yourself is a can of worms. :CS

http://www.insidesocal.com/tomhoffarth/can_of_worms_ahead.jpg

[SLV^GLD]

Why the gender bias? Substitute He for She and Him for Her and you have the same description of the abusive man. For the most part there are very few differences that separate people based on gender alone.

Hell, even the article gets confused about which gender they are trying to paint:


Confusing Love & Abuse


Explaining violence as an expression of his deep love.

[BillBoard]

Merkel urges calm after German terror warning


BERLIN – Chancellor Angela Merkel sought to reassure Germans on Saturday after her government alerted the country to a heightened terrorist threat, saying everything is being done to ensure people's security.

Merkel's interior minister, Thomas de Maiziere, raised Germany's security level Wednesday. He cited an increased threat from extremists but didn't give specific details.

"I think everything is being done to ensure the security of people in Germany," Merkel said on the sidelines of a NATO summit in Lisbon, Portugal. "We have a real threat from terrorism ... but we are determined not to be deprived of our free way of living by such threats."

Merkel's comments came after the weekly Der Spiegel reported, without citing sources, that an informer claimed to German authorities that al-Qaida planned a possible attack early next year on Berlin's Reichstag parliament building.

She had no comment on that, but the head of Germany's Federal Criminal Police Office called the report "highly speculative," the German news agency DAPD reported.

"There are no indications of specific places, people or moments," Joerg Ziercke said in Hamburg.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20101120/ap_on_re_eu/eu_germany_terror_threat

The Germans know too well the characteristic of abusive women.

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Hell, even the article gets confused about which gender they are trying to paint:



You are one smart cookie. Good catch.

[Desolation LineTrimmer]

Why the gender bias? Substitute He for She and Him for Her and you have the same description of the abusive man. For the most part there are very few differences that separate people based on gender alone.


Respectfully disagree, Gender is about as substantive a difference as one can get within humans. It is all about chemical plants. Testes are pumping out massive doses of testosterone, and estrogen is no lightweight itself.

[BabushkaLady]

[size=9pt]Characteristics of Abusive Women

Superiority


Contempt for men as stupid, unworthy, a sex object or as a hunter.



What man is complaining of being viewed as a Sex Object?? Those darn therapists can't get anything right . . . .

[hoarder]

I think 90% of women that have watched teevee all their lives have most of these characteristics. Blame teevee, not women.

[SLV^GLD]

Why the gender bias? Substitute He for She and Him for Her and you have the same description of the abusive man. For the most part there are very few differences that separate people based on gender alone.


Respectfully disagree, Gender is about as substantive a difference as one can get within humans. It is all about chemical plants. Testes are pumping out massive doses of testosterone, and estrogen is no lightweight itself.
You make a very valid and practically invulnerable point. However, when someone is describing human behavior in relation to gender it is practically impossible for the description to not be a generalization that is easily refuted simply by substituting the gender specific words in that description at which point the generalization becomes equally applicable to either gender. Fact is, there are geniuses, assholes, introverts and every stripe of human within each gender. The only outright statements I can conceive of that are strictly contained within a specific gender relate to bodily function. Menstruation and pregnancy are specifically female although there is some evidence that men undergo monthly cycles that mimic "that time of the month". The ease with which men can urinate outdoors is wholly within the confines of the male sphere. In terms of human behavior there is no generalization that is adequately constrained to gender. I would acquiesce to arguments that indicate that this sort of homogenization of gender attributes is a result of social engineering by powers of interest.

[Silver Rocket Bitches!]

Someone switched the "he" to "she" in this article then failed to proofread.


Refusing to acknowledge abusive behaviour (e.g. he fell), not acknowledging the seriousness of her behaviour and its effects (e.g., it's just a scratch), blaming the victim (e.g., he drove me to it; he made it up because I have a new girlfriend).

Not that it can't apply to both but this was clearly written with abusive men in mind.

[ximmy]

Someone switched the "he" to "she" in this article then failed to proofread.


Refusing to acknowledge abusive behaviour (e.g. he fell), not acknowledging the seriousness of her behaviour and its effects (e.g., it's just a scratch), blaming the victim (e.g., he drove me to it; he made it up because I have a new girlfriend).

Not that it can't apply to both but this was clearly written with abusive men in mind.


good catch Silver!!!

[k-os]

I agree with SLV^GLD.

Not to say that the OP isn't true, just that it's not gender specific.

I also agree with Silver Rocket Bitches!, that someone copied . . . let's say the material at this site (http://www.lfcc.on.ca/HCT_SWASM_4.html) and changed the "Men" to "Women".

[Dogman]

Why the gender bias? Substitute He for She and Him for Her and you have the same description of the abusive man. For the most part there are very few differences that separate people based on gender alone.

Hell, even the article gets confused about which gender they are trying to paint:


Confusing Love & Abuse


Explaining violence as an expression of his deep love.


Abuse can take many forms, physical and mental, and can happen to both genders.
There is too much is going on today, But it will never be stopped.which is a shame.


Human nature is what it is .. sorry to say!

[zap]

Live by the golden rule, if more did this then there wouldn't be so much abuse.

Treat others as you would like to be treated.

Oh and a real important thing to remember , You will never change somebody to be what you want them to be, (Try as you might you will never do it.) accept them the way they are.

Or walk.

[ximmy]

I agree with SLV^GLD.

Not to say that the OP isn't true, just that it's not gender specific.

I also agree with Silver Rocket Bitches!, that someone copied . . . let's say the material at this site (http://www.lfcc.on.ca/HCT_SWASM_4.html) and changed the "Men" to "Women".


excellent find Kos!!!

[Silver Shield]

Hurt people, hurt people.

Psychopaths create psychopaths.

We are creating narcissism on an industrial scale.

Look up the 12 characteristics of psycho/sociopaths and you will find the toxic relations in your life.

Cut them out of your life.