The Four Agreements

[muffin]

The Four Agreements


1. Be impeccable with your words.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t take anything personally.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinion and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t make assumptions.
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always do your best.
Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self judgment, self abuse and regret.

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the four agreements


1. Be impeccable with your words.
speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don’t take anything personally.
nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinion and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don’t make assumptions.
find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always do your best.
your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self judgment, self abuse and regret.


the boys need to read this. ;)

[Neuro]

Excellent advice! That really is life transforming material in terms of communication with others!

Thank button pressed!

[LuckyStrike]

I haven't met a girl yet who follows 2 and 3.

[beefsteak]

Muffin, +1 for those inspiring meditations. Life long pursuit of those 4 agreements is worthy of committed effort.


LuckyStrike, perhaps you would consider stepping up your game and "meeting" WOMEN, and not "girls?"


beefsteak

[ximmy]

I haven't met a girl yet who follows 2 and 3.

I've never met a guy yet who follows 1, 2, 3 or 4... (Insert rolly eyes icon here)

[LuckyStrike]

I've never met a guy yet

That sucks.

[ximmy]

That sucks.

ximmy thanks LuckyStrike for this useful post (insert rolly eyes icon here)

[LuckyStrike]

ximmy thanks LuckyStrike for this useful post (insert rolly eyes icon here)

:D

I do miss the thanks button, is there any word on if we are going to get it back?

[D sciple]

1. Be impeccable with your words.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using words to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your words in the direction of truth and love

This one seems kind of interesting to me. I mean, of course in court never speak against yourself, but in dealing with your friends too?

Sometimes I think I can be a little overbearing, so I'll make concessions on my more marginal positions just to show I'm reasonable overall. I mean, certainly you have to come off your position and admit defeat when you're clearly proven wrong, right?

How does the author not take this into consideration?

[Neuro]

This one seems kind of interesting to me. I mean, of course in court never speak against yourself, but in dealing with your friends too?

Sometimes I think I can be a little overbearing, so I'll make concessions on my more marginal positions just to show I'm reasonable overall. I mean, certainly you have to come off your position and admit defeat when you're clearly proven wrong, right?

How does the author not take this into consideration?
It is not about admitting wrong, but using words belittling or denigrating yourself...

[D sciple]

2. Don’t take anything personally.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinion and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.



On to number 2....

First half is undeniable, but the second ....idk.

Yes, if you're immune to the opinion and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering. But that if, is nearly impossible. While yes, everyone is experiencing their own dream in their head, often projecting their insecurities, fears, etc., onto you, there is a shared reality too. When banksters project their greed into the common reality by manipulating markets and stealing your wealth, you are going to be affected. They need to be dealt with, ldo.

Still, I can see how this is a good...agreement (?, op reference). Like, you could realize they need to be dealt with here (earth), yet still have your ultimate treasure in heaven or something like that, so you can be fearless or not suffering (to use authors words) while dealing with those causing suffering, and ultimately not caring if you go down doing so.

[Twisted Titan]

1. Be impeccable with your words. .......... Yet it is The Liar who controls The Ship of State.

2. Don’t take anything personally............... You open yourself up to MASSIVE abuse by anyone ....and you will be.

3. Don’t make assumptions...................... Ask a Cop why are you pulling me over as I was peaceably just going about my business? See how that one works out


4. Always do your best.............. I agree with that.