I'd put down a loved one like I would my dog

[General of Darkness]

I've had to put down 3 dogs I loved in my life time. Every single time it was to stop pain or that look in their eye that they knew that weren't what they were and didn't want to live anymore. And every single GOD DAMN TIME, I died a little inside and cried like no tomorrow.

My mother had a small stroke, but has also lost some memory and isn't who she was. She's about 60% of herself. Herself is very independent, she came to the U.S. with NOTHING and is probably worth a few million bucks. And to have to see her now is fucking painful, because if she was herself and saw what she is now, she'd ask me to end it. And if even if she did, I can't.

It's better to be a dog in this society than a human, because making humans suffer pays more. How fucking sad is that.

[Dick_Stabber]

Hang in there. Shit wont get any better, but one can hope.

Hope your mom gets better.

[ShortJohnSilver]

So are you letting the doctors decide her treatment, or are you getting involved by reading up on ways to fix her nutrition etc. so she can have a better recovery? Don't trust these doctors, you have to watch them evey step of the way.

[woodman]

I hear ya General. There should be an accepted and decent way to leave this world when you no longer have any quality of life left. My father who is 88 has been having strokes and is very weak. He is a shadow of his former self and I am certain he has lost the will to keep on keeping on. It is heartbreaking.

As far as dogs go, there is nothing half-assed about the soul of a dog. They are all about love and alliegance. They will work till their heart bursts to please you and they will always be happy to see you. Always. I lost my best dog Zipper, many years ago and still have not found one as good. I lost a dear friend when he died. He was family. I cried like a child.

[gunDriller]

So are you letting the doctors decide her treatment, or are you getting involved by reading up on ways to fix her nutrition etc. so she can have a better recovery? Don't trust these doctors, you have to watch them evey step of the way.

agreed.

do not let doctors manage her care.

a sick or injured patient needs someone as an advocate, to bang on the table for them, to make sure they get what they need.

if that task falls to the patient, it magnifies their stress load - and that's not good for the healing process.

i've been through this with other patients - where i was the "table-banger" - and it works. the only objective of the medical machine is to make money.

when my father was dying, i was the only one in the family who saw his pain and connected it with the need for a morphine patch. (the downside being, too much morphine can interfere with breathing.) the facility that had him was happy to charge $4000 a day for 3 jello meals a day, but collectively too stupid to give a dying man a simple morphine patch.

[palani]

Just a suggestion. Watch this video.

http://magneticosleep.com/about-magnetism/video-lecture/

[osoab]

GoD, was this thread about your mom?

Need advice - A friends mom had a mild stroke (http://gold-silver.us/forum/showthread.php?65095-Need-advice-A-friends-mom-had-a-mild-stroke)
I feel for you GoD. It's disheartening to watch a loved one go through a stroke and the consequences.

How long has it been since the stroke? Does she just need a bit of time to fully recuperate?

I watched a neighbor of mine have a stroke in front of me. It was a small one. He was 90 at the time. He really was never phased by it. He passed away a couple of years later, but that was due to being placed in a nursing home to recuperate from a surgery he had.

Your mom may just need a bit more time.

Even if your mom is currently at 60%, it is better than watching a loved one that has Alzheimers that also has a stroke.
That is a major drag to see a loved one go through.

[Celtic Rogue]

I am TOTALLY with you GoD! Sorry to hear about your mother. Also about putting down a dog. Been there and hope I NEVER have to be there again. The look in his eyes will be burned into my mind forever. It had to be done to relieve his suffering... but that didnt make it any easier.

[madfranks]

Take care, GoD. We all may just be friends over the 'net, but our emotions and empathy are as real as the living breathing folks around you. I sincerely wish you the best and the best for your mom.

[MNeagle]

Indeed madfranks. Also, was her stroke caught in a timely manner? There are effective drugs that can counteract the stroke effects if administered soon enough. Godspeed.

[Golden]

Take care, GoD. We all may just be friends over the 'net, but our emotions and empathy are as real as the living breathing folks around you. I sincerely wish you the best and the best for your mom.

What madfranks said ya prick.

[Twisted Titan]

If there was ever a time to be a dick stabber

This is it.

You have to be your moms advocate to these cock holsters cause all they see is dollars signs and they get it by pushing uneffective treatments and false hope.


Be a ball breaker and question everything and if they try and gang up on you. ....i got your 6ix.


All the best. .....i will keep her in my devotional.

[MNeagle]

I've had to put down 3 dogs I loved in my life time. Every single time it was to stop pain or that look in their eye that they knew that weren't what they were and didn't want to live anymore. And every single GOD DAMN TIME, I died a little inside and cried like no tomorrow.

My mother had a small stroke, but has also lost some memory and isn't who she was. She's about 60% of herself. Herself is very independent, she came to the U.S. with NOTHING and is probably worth a few million bucks. And to have to see her now is fucking painful, because if she was herself and saw what she is now, she'd ask me to end it. And if even if she did, I can't.

It's better to be a dog in this society than a human, because making humans suffer pays more. How fucking sad is that.

any update you'd care to share w/us General?

I'm thinking of you & your MOM...