I hold the door for people, regardless of sex.Quote:
Originally Posted by JohnQPublic
Any feminut says that to me, and I'm going to ask her to exit and re-enter, so I can slam the door in her face.
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I hold the door for people, regardless of sex.Quote:
Originally Posted by JohnQPublic
Any feminut says that to me, and I'm going to ask her to exit and re-enter, so I can slam the door in her face.
If you hold the door for me I will Thankyou kindly.
But I won't stand at the door waiting for some nice guy to open it for me. :D
It is sad to say that those guys are so hard to find. Many are ones that have been broken by the "other' girls you have described your daughter was "dumped" for. When I stopped looking and didn't look for a Ken doll, I found my guy! I didn't grow up perfect because my home was severely broken. Somehow, even without guidance, I have managed to find my way and I believe my girls are doing the right thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by shakinginmyshoes
My son is that guy that the good girls are looking for. He is polite, opens doors, does not push for inappropriate behavior and he respects women. He becomes angry when he hears about a girl or woman disrespecting herself. (he is taken by a great young lady) He went through a crush that last from about 5th grade until just about the beginning of his junior year in high school. He was heart-broken each time he saw this young lady get hurt. He had to be content with being a good friend. No, that is not who he is with now, however, they are great friends still.
It saddens me that boys like my son are far and few between. He felt there was something wrong with him. Girls seem to go for the bad boys because they are pushing to be popular.
I recall sitting toward the back of the football bus. We were headed home from a game and the guys must have forgotten I was on the bus. They started their "locker talk" about the girls. I stayed quiet because as a girl, I wanted to know what they though of us girls. I was shocked. Correct me if I am wrong guys, this was in the late 80's though...
These guys boasted about who they had sex with and which girls were willing to do what and just how far they could get with a girl. They didn't seem disturbed if their buddy had been with this girl too, it only seemed to fuel on a bragging war as to who got her to do more. I was sick to my stomach! These were all the popular girls and some of the other girls that thought they were liked. Now I knew why they were liked. I still stayed quiet, now more because I was sick to my stomach with the disrespect the guys spoke about these girls and how these girls let these guys treat them! Another name of a girl was brought up and someone said they couldn't get her to do anything. Someone else called her a tease. But then another guy told them to shut up. He said, that was the kind of girl he would want to marry. He didn't think she was a tease at all. He knew she wouldn't do these things and that is the kind of wife he wanted, on that hadn't slept with all the guys in school. The bus got quiet. I learned so much that night. The silence was louder than words! I learned that night, even though the guys held themselves at a lower standard, they didn't want a girl that didn't respect herself when the time came to settle down.
:oo--> go figure....
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Nice post stillwondering.
While I disagree that women should be placed upon pedestals...if anything, they are placed higher on pedestals now. Their sexuality often used that way.
I think the frustrating thing is that chivalry is casually discarded, looked upon with distain, or just outright ignored these days.
A perfect example of this is one evening years ago in college, in the dorms, I was walking to my room. A guy stopped me and said there's a drunk gal in his room that wants to to have sex with him. He said he didn't want to, and pushed me in the room saying get in there and take my place. I see the gal was passed out. I leave the room immediately, and stood by the door. I spent that night pushing guys away, and wouldn't let anyone in that room. The gal eventually woke up in the early morning and stumbled to her room.
I received no thanks for this, this act of kindness was not even noticed at all.
It would be nice if even the small things, like opening a door, gets noticed. Sometimes it does, I know, but most often not.
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I am sorry if I implied women should be on a high pedestal, as in a place of worship, but a place of respect. With that statement, with the risk of upsetting some women, I take very little issue with my husband being head of household, a place of respect. We may have a disagreement, however, I follow so long as he is not taking us down a wrong path. I have to say that I do not recall many times of having to say anything in this area and we have been together over 10 years.
I feel that each has something to bring into the relationship and if the situation has not presented itself in such a manner that you are on your own and you have to take care of it all, it is nice to just do your part and let your other half do their part. It is a pretty good design and why fight it if you don't have to. I still like to do the things guys do. I just like knowing that I am not required to do it.
I am sorry that you were not thanked for standing guard over this young lady that night. So on behalf of mothers and all other woman, I thank you. That night could have gotten really ugly that night for her and you watched over her. That is what a real man does. Again, thank you!
Yes, Liquid a big fat THANKYOU from all of us, women and mothers. :sun:
Quotefrom stillwondering
So on behalf of mothers and all other woman, I thank you. That night could have gotten really ugly that night for her and you watched over her. That is what a real man does. Again, thank you!
(silversurfer :'()
How sad that a female seems to think her only way to make it in this world is to sell her body. Flesh is worth more than her brains and thoughts. She thinks she is respected, how little does she know. When her looks are gone, it is over. The men will no longer flock to her with gifts and money. How completely sad.Quote:
Originally Posted by silversurfer
Jeez, I appreciate that zap and stillwondering, but really don't think it's that big of a deal. It was just the right thing to do. I think a lot of men would have done that very thing, and it really doesn't need to be noticed.Quote:
Originally Posted by zap
I posted that story to make a point that the men that actually respect women, just don't get 'noticed' anymore. Which is why I cringe whenever I hear "where are all the good men?"
The original great accomplishment of feminism precedes recorded history: it was the formation of a cartel to force males to invest in their offspring by withholding sex from those who would not commit to it. This wasn't an easy task -- maintaining the cartel required a lot of will-power, and ruthless action against defectors and their bastards. Fortunately they succeeded, and their cartel and the institution that it created – marriage – became one of the cornerstones of civilization.
The modern breed of feminists have gambled that they could enjoy the advantages of their ancient cartel by government fiat, while sparing themselves the pain of maintaining the old order. As the looming bankruptcy of their great sugar-daddy in Washington becomes ever more obvious the foolishness of abandoning the cartel will soon be hard to miss.
IT IS A BIG DEAL! NOT MANY GUYS WOULD DO WHAT YOU DID. I WOULD LIKE TO THINK THEY WOULD, BUT SADLY, FROM ENOUGH KNOWLEDGE, THEY DON'T. :boohooQuote:
Originally Posted by Liquid
Yes, Liquid it is a very big & honorable deed you did. You set a fine example & I thank you too.